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Jay Sadie

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Demotivational Speaking
« on: September 17, 2012, 03:13:43 AM »

Let me start by saying that I totally believe in positive thinking. What made me come up with the idea of demotivational speaking is purely based on lateral thinking.

In today's modern world there certainly is not a shortage of motivational speakers.

Why then demotivational speaking?

During the 2012 Olympics in London I could not help thinking about how many athlete's dreams were shattered. Imagine working extremely hard for 4 or more years, devoting all you energy and time, just to be disappointed by not winning a medal, or to be disqualified, or to be tripped, or to wake up on the big day only to find that you have a bad stomach virus or the common cold, etc. etc.

One might argue that this is just how things work. There can only be one winner. But this is exactly what made me think about the fact that we are so conditioned to strive for the top... to be number one, that we are setting ourselves up for failure, and more importantly... disappointment!

The world loves a winner. Nobody remembers the person that came in second or third. From the day we are born we are being conditioned to be first, be that at school, sports, or even playing innocent games. We are constantly competing against others.

Motivational speaking teaches us to "reach for the stars", "be anything you want to be", "if you put your mind to it you will succeed", ...

There is nothing wrong with reaching for the stars. Where motivational speaking fails us is the fact that it does not deal with reality and potential failure. Not everyone can be a winner, right? Well, maybe everyone can be a winner. This is what I'd like to focus on. Being a winner does not mean that you have to beat someone else. The only competition we should face is to beat ourselves. This means that you would only compete with yourself, and not others.

This approach may sound loopy at first. But remember that anything sounds weird when it goes against what you're used to. The world teaches us to be "number one". This is imprinted in our minds. Just reading this post may probably make you raise your eyebrows, thinking that this is unnatural. That's okay though. Anything that people are not used to naturally feels unnatural.

You have to be brutally honest with yourself by examining your own life. Do you feel successful? Have you achieved your own goals? Are these goals your own, or are they what others expect of you? Have you attended motivational speeches, feeling all fired up, feeling that your world was about to change, only to sink back into the daily grind of life, a week or month later? Despite the fact that the event fades away, and becomes a distant memory, your subconscious mind does not forget. There is a little seed that reminds you yet again that you have failed, whether you want to admit it or not. And the more of these events that you attend, the more seeds are planted. You spent your hard-earned money on something that made you feel good only for a short while, only to haunt your subconscious mind for years to come. Unless, of course, you took the motivational speaker's advice, and went on to do exactly what he/she suggested during the event. Oh, how good it felt during the event. There was a certain euphoric energy in the air. The speaker was amazing, jumping up and down on the stage, riling up the crowd into a frenzy of excitement. You hugged those around you, and shared their enthusiasm and determination to "turn over a new leaf." The mass-hysteria of the crowd was impossible to resist. When you left the arena you felt revitalized and ready to take on the world.

I would love to know how many people actually turn their lives around after these events. What would the success rate be? I have a feeling we will be shocked with the actual figure. I'll take a stab at it... probably less than one percent. My question would then be, what about the other 99%? Would it not be better to focus on a system to reach the 99%, rather than the small minority that would probably have made it to the top, even without attending the event.

Look around you. For every winner there are thousands of losers. Go to a casino. How many people walk out of there with smiles on their faces? Inside the casino you will sometimes see pictures of previous winners on the walls. We automatically think to ourselves that if they won all that money, so can we. We all have a shot at it. It inspires us to want to gamble our money on something we have very little chance at winning. And I mean "very little". There are other ways you can spend your hard-earned money, that will dramatically increase your chances of success, i.e. starting your own business. Of course there is risk with anything you do. That is just part of life. However, it is important to change the odds in your favor.

As a demotivational speaker I would mainly focus on changing people's attitudes and focus towards their own capabilities. We are all unique and we all have at least one thing we are good at. Our challenge in life is to discover and cultivate the things we are good at. The easiest way to success (whatever your definition of success might be) is to do what you truly like/love to do, and what you know you excel in. To try and do something that will give you fame and fortune, but that you're not comfortable with, is setting yourself up for failure. Of course, some people are just pure lucky, and they will succeed even at something they're mediocre at. But, look at the numbers. For instance: If one million people that are not naturally talented tennis players decide to make it their career, then maybe one, two, or perhaps five may make it into the top twenty. Sadly, that is what almost all of us focus on.

My question to you is: "What about the other 999,995 people that failed?" These are the odds I'm talking about. Now let's say these million people rather all did what they were good at, and only 500,000 of them succeeded, it would still be a huge improvement on the success rate. Would you not rather have 500,000 happy people than just a few (1 to 5) extremely happy people?

My idea of demotivational speaking will truly inspire people to become successful based on their own capabilities. It will teach them not to chase extremely low odds, where there's only a small, tiny chance, but to rather chase more attainable dreams, with much better odds.

At the end of the day it is all just a "numbers game".

Avoid all-or-nothing dreams where there can only be one winner.

Go for what you're truly good at.


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« Last Edit: September 17, 2012, 05:37:26 AM by Jay Sadie »
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